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Post by Sue on Sept 20, 2010 12:37:01 GMT -5
Morning, S'cubies! Today is the anniversary of the single most amazing thing that's ever happened to me. A year ago this afternoon (at 1:16, to be precise - do dads ever remember it to the minute?), my daughter Emily was born. In the last year, I've learned so much. Before Emily, I never knew it was possible to love someone enough that you'd throw yourself in front of a bus for them...and you'd drive more carefully even when they're not with you, because they need you so much. Before Emily, I never knew how much my own mother loved me. It's truly amazing to know someone looks at me the way I look at her, and it gives me more confidence in myself than you can possibly imagine. Before Emily, I didn't know if was possible for the universe to have you completely by the short and curlies. If anything EVER happened to that little girl, I'd be finished. It's terrifying and wonderful all at the same time. Before Emily, I never really got that "Mom" is the hardest job in the world. The no-sleep, half the time the no-eat, the constant worrying, the stress, always wondering if you're "doing it right". New self-confidence aside, it's so hard to know if it's the right thing at that moment. As of today, I've breastfed (or pumped milk) for her for an entire year, and it's an accomplishment of which I think I'm justly proud. I'm not a lacto-Nazi by any means, but it did become a bit of an obsession for me - a gift I wanted to give her to start her out in life. But, as of today, I also get to put the pump in the drawer and let her drink cow's milk when we're not together, and I'm also thrilled about THAT. The joy I feel when she smiles at me is incredible - it's like the sun coming out. And it just keeps getting better. And how's your day? Yep. Indeed. (all choked up)
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Post by SpringSummers on Sept 20, 2010 12:39:41 GMT -5
On this one, I just want to add that even more revealing for me, when I first became a mom, was learning that it was possible to love someone enough that I'd throw someone else in front of a bus for them, if I had to. I mean - the violence, the ferocity of the feelings - wow. I knew I'd die for my kid, but I also knew - yes, I'd kill for my kid. This, too. I can tell from what you write that you have already figured this out, but for those possible crazy-making times ahead, when you may find yourself wondering about it: Don't hold back, just open every corner of your heart, and love her with everything you've got. It is terrifying, as you say, because when you open yourself up to intense joy, you open yourself up to intense pain. And it's scary because the part where you translate that love into " doing the best thing for her" can be wildly confusing and bewildering, and you are sure to make mistakes. But I am telling you this now: You will never, ever, no matter what, be sorry that you were all-in. Thanks again for sharing your joy.
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Post by Rachael on Sept 20, 2010 13:36:41 GMT -5
I can tell from what you write that you have already figured this out, but for those possible crazy-making times ahead, when you may find yourself wondering about it: Don't hold back, just open every corner of your heart, and love her with everything you've got. It is terrifying, as you say, because when you open yourself up to intense joy, you open yourself up to intense pain. And it's scary because the part where you translate that love into " doing the best thing for her" can be wildly confusing and bewildering, and you are sure to make mistakes. But I am telling you this now: You will never, ever, no matter what, be sorry that you were all-in. Thanks again for sharing your joy. Yeah. I am reminded of this quote: "Making the decision to have a child - it's momentous. It is to decide forever to have your heart go walking outside your body." -Elizabeth Stone
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Post by Spaced Out Looney on Sept 20, 2010 13:39:58 GMT -5
Morning, S'cubies! Today is the anniversary of the single most amazing thing that's ever happened to me. A year ago this afternoon (at 1:16, to be precise - do dads ever remember it to the minute?), my daughter Emily was born. In the last year, I've learned so much. Before Emily, I never knew it was possible to love someone enough that you'd throw yourself in front of a bus for them...and you'd drive more carefully even when they're not with you, because they need you so much. Before Emily, I never knew how much my own mother loved me. It's truly amazing to know someone looks at me the way I look at her, and it gives me more confidence in myself than you can possibly imagine. Before Emily, I didn't know if was possible for the universe to have you completely by the short and curlies. If anything EVER happened to that little girl, I'd be finished. It's terrifying and wonderful all at the same time. Before Emily, I never really got that "Mom" is the hardest job in the world. The no-sleep, half the time the no-eat, the constant worrying, the stress, always wondering if you're "doing it right". New self-confidence aside, it's so hard to know if it's the right thing at that moment. As of today, I've breastfed (or pumped milk) for her for an entire year, and it's an accomplishment of which I think I'm justly proud. I'm not a lacto-Nazi by any means, but it did become a bit of an obsession for me - a gift I wanted to give her to start her out in life. But, as of today, I also get to put the pump in the drawer and let her drink cow's milk when we're not together, and I'm also thrilled about THAT. The joy I feel when she smiles at me is incredible - it's like the sun coming out. And it just keeps getting better. And how's your day? Aw...happy birthday to Emily!
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Post by Sue on Sept 20, 2010 16:47:00 GMT -5
Just fyi the next 4 weeks are going to be crazy.
More work being done on house that requires packing up china closet and bookshelves and laundry room.
But in the midst of that I'll be in Las Vegas for 4 days with Jim. Also Allie's bf will be here for 5 days.
Then I'll be in Chicago for 2 weeks while much of the work is being done -- so if I'm out of the loop look for me around the 3rd week of October.
Although I'll probably get by here at least once most days, at least to read.
And: Yay for Chuck, The Event, Hawaii 5-0 and Castle. I realize I am going to have to get my WIL to record some things in Chicago for me and let Jim erase stuff from the DVR as the days go by.
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Post by SpringSummers on Sept 20, 2010 18:19:33 GMT -5
I can tell from what you write that you have already figured this out, but for those possible crazy-making times ahead, when you may find yourself wondering about it: Don't hold back, just open every corner of your heart, and love her with everything you've got. It is terrifying, as you say, because when you open yourself up to intense joy, you open yourself up to intense pain. And it's scary because the part where you translate that love into " doing the best thing for her" can be wildly confusing and bewildering, and you are sure to make mistakes. But I am telling you this now: You will never, ever, no matter what, be sorry that you were all-in. Thanks again for sharing your joy. Yeah. I am reminded of this quote: "Making the decision to have a child - it's momentous. It is to decide forever to have your heart go walking outside your body." -Elizabeth Stone Great quote. I had never heard it before.
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Post by SpringSummers on Sept 20, 2010 18:20:26 GMT -5
Just fyi the next 4 weeks are going to be crazy. More work being done on house that requires packing up china closet and bookshelves and laundry room. But in the midst of that I'll be in Las Vegas for 4 days with Jim. Also Allie's bf will be here for 5 days. Then I'll be in Chicago for 2 weeks while much of the work is being done -- so if I'm out of the loop look for me around the 3rd week of October. Although I'll probably get by here at least once most days, at least to read. And: Yay for Chuck, The Event, Hawaii 5-0 and Castle. I realize I am going to have to get my WIL to record some things in Chicago for me and let Jim erase stuff from the DVR as the days go by. WOW! Good luck with all this, Sue. Stop in when you can.
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Post by Karen on Sept 20, 2010 18:54:02 GMT -5
Just fyi the next 4 weeks are going to be crazy. More work being done on house that requires packing up china closet and bookshelves and laundry room. But in the midst of that I'll be in Las Vegas for 4 days with Jim. Also Allie's bf will be here for 5 days. Then I'll be in Chicago for 2 weeks while much of the work is being done -- so if I'm out of the loop look for me around the 3rd week of October. Although I'll probably get by here at least once most days, at least to read. And: Yay for Chuck, The Event, Hawaii 5-0 and Castle. I realize I am going to have to get my WIL to record some things in Chicago for me and let Jim erase stuff from the DVR as the days go by. Good luck with the busy, Sue! The Event? I'll have to check out what that is about. As of now, everything i need to record is fitting on my DVR nicely. Except for House. Chuck, HIMYM, Big Bang Two and Half Men (hate Charlie, but love the adjunct characters - he does make a good foil); Gossip Girl Hawaii 5-O, Castle Monday, Monday....
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Post by SpringSummers on Sept 20, 2010 21:56:17 GMT -5
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Post by Julia, wrought iron-y on Sept 20, 2010 22:25:29 GMT -5
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Post by Sara on Sept 20, 2010 23:03:00 GMT -5
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Post by Julia, wrought iron-y on Sept 20, 2010 23:55:58 GMT -5
Is anyone feeling "The Event?" not so much for me.
Julia, rather too much like the third season of Lost.
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Post by Anne, Old S'cubie Cat on Sept 21, 2010 7:26:02 GMT -5
Is anyone feeling "The Event?" not so much for me. Julia, rather too much like the third season of Lost. DVR'd it, will watch later maybe. I think Himself may have watched it, me, I gave up and went to bed early, right after Jon Stewart. And I'd just like to say that the new security check for posting when you aren't signed in, sucks dead bears. Well, I talk too much anyway. If I can't sign in, I just won't post.
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Post by SpringSummers on Sept 21, 2010 9:00:20 GMT -5
Good Tuesday Morning, S'cubies!
Just came from long meeting. Yeee. Sometimes I look around me, and am clueless how I got here.
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Post by Karen on Sept 21, 2010 9:01:48 GMT -5
Is anyone feeling "The Event?" not so much for me. Julia, rather too much like the third season of Lost. DVR'd it, will watch later maybe. I think Himself may have watched it, me, I gave up and went to bed early, right after Jon Stewart. And I'd just like to say that the new security check for posting when you aren't signed in, sucks dead bears. Well, I talk too much anyway. If I can't sign in, I just won't post. WTF, Over.......That is insane. The new vocal security check makes a quick fly by from the office impossible without either signing in or using headphones. Blech. Proboards, this one's for you.
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