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Post by Rob on May 3, 2005 16:58:21 GMT -5
I'm OK...it seems to all be coming out in tired. And thinking "God, the last thing I said to her was, 'Can I ask you for a favor?'" Went for a walk at lunch time...that seemed to help a bit. How are you? I was worried about you last night... I'm sort of exhausted. Spent most of my day in forced "goofy funny Rob" mode at work, since that's the mask I wear most comfortably. Anyway, I went through every single post since last night...and pretty much lost it several times. Which, I suppose, is what should happen. Those who directed kind thoughts toward me, I appreciate them deeply. I have all sorts of thoughts running through my head, most of which seem too small to share. The sort of random musings that everyone has. One of the last lengthy chats Patti and I shared on ICQ (and there were something close to 100 over the last couple of years) had to do with grief, and how we as human beings collectively deal with it. If only I'd saved it...
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Post by Shan on May 3, 2005 17:11:07 GMT -5
I meant to announce this earlier, but I've been...preoccupied.
Anyway, Anne has offered to be the collector of the emergency contact information for all of us. Whatever information you feel approprate to your own privacy comfort level, please send to Anne at either her S'cubie PM address or to her YIM (underneath her avatar).
Anne will only share this contact information with Vlad and the other technopagans: Erin and me. One of us will be available ASAP with it should it ever become necessary.
If you have any questions or concerns about this, let me know.
(((S'cubies everywhere)))
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Post by Dragon on May 3, 2005 17:12:31 GMT -5
I'm sort of exhausted. Spent most of my day in forced "goofy funny Rob" mode at work, since that's the mask I wear most comfortably. Anyway, I went through every single post since last night...and pretty much lost it several times. Which, I suppose, is what should happen. Those who directed kind thoughts toward me, I appreciate them deeply. I have all sorts of thoughts running through my head, most of which seem too small to share. The sort of random musings that everyone has. One of the last lengthy chats Patti and I shared on ICQ (and there were something close to 100 over the last couple of years) had to do with grief, and how we as human beings collectively deal with it. If only I'd saved it... Rob, you have saved her in your heart, the most important place of all.
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Post by Wendy on May 3, 2005 17:13:10 GMT -5
Patti, Where do I even start? I can't believe that you are never going to read this. I can't believe that I'm never again going to see your name when I log on to the board. Thank you for all the kind words you ever said to me. Thank you for all the hugs you ever gave. Thank you for being there for me. Thank you for your warmth and generosity that reached across the ocean and touched my soul. Thank you for being the sweetest, kindest person anyone could ever hope to meet. Thank you for being you. You once said that you would be my friend no matter what. And you were. When I almost turned away from S3, you were the one who persuaded me to stay. And I'm so glad you did. I sometimes wonder why we allow ourselves to love people as much as we do, when the pain we go through when we lose them is so hard to bear. But I wouldn't give up one second of the time I spent on this board with you, Patti. You enriched my life more than you will ever know. The pain I'm feeling now is nothing compared to the thought of never having known you at all. It is better to have loved and lost, than to never have loved at all. How very true that is. I've been trying all day to find the right words to express how I'm feeling. How we're all feeling. But how can I ever put an emotion such as that into words? You were a wonderful woman, Patti. Warm, friendly, loving and kind. You were strong, feisty and so much fun. You were our Board Protector and our very special friend. Where do we go from here? It's going to be so very hard without you, Patti. But we will survive. I believe that with all of my heart. And I really do believe that you will be with us every step of the way. I love and miss you so very much. {{Cal}} That was beautiful.
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Post by Dragon on May 3, 2005 17:14:12 GMT -5
I meant to announce this earlier, but I've been...preoccupied. Anyway, Anne has offered to be the collector of the emergency contact information for all of us. Whatever information you feel approprate to your own privacy comfort level, please send to Anne at either her S'cubie PM address or to her YIM (underneath her avatar). Anne will only share this contact information with Vlad and the other technopagans: Erin and me. One of us will be available ASAP with it should it ever become necessary. If you have any questions or concerns about this, let me know. (((S'cubies everywhere))) Is ther no way we can put that information on our profile page? Then the people who need to can have access to it.
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Post by Shan on May 3, 2005 17:16:14 GMT -5
I'm sort of exhausted. Spent most of my day in forced "goofy funny Rob" mode at work, since that's the mask I wear most comfortably. Anyway, I went through every single post since last night...and pretty much lost it several times. Which, I suppose, is what should happen. Those who directed kind thoughts toward me, I appreciate them deeply. I have all sorts of thoughts running through my head, most of which seem too small to share. The sort of random musings that everyone has. One of the last lengthy chats Patti and I shared on ICQ (and there were something close to 100 over the last couple of years) had to do with grief, and how we as human beings collectively deal with it. If only I'd saved it... You did save it. It's with you, always. Everything she said and was is WITH you. ((((Rob))))
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Post by Sue on May 3, 2005 17:20:12 GMT -5
Okay, I think I've found it. Patti's first post on the Soulful Spike Society thread at ScoopMe. To be honest I finally started scanning every other page, but once I found this post I went back and checked every page in that part and couldn't find anything earlier.
From the ScoopMe Archives, Part 11, page 10, post 146 , posted on March 2, 2003
and the very next post:
and the next post after that one:
AND the NEXT post:
AND:
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Don't you just love it! Patti-itis in her inaugural appearance!
I'd just keep copying----- the next post is by Rob concerning Spike's soul and on the very next page, Patti continues with "interruptions" by Rob, Vlad and ellie welcoming her to the board.
Just go to the ScoopMe Archives, part 11, start about midway through page 10.
Whew!
I wasn't going to rest until I found this.
Sue
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Post by Shan on May 3, 2005 17:20:59 GMT -5
Is ther no way we can put that information on our profile page? Then the people who need to can have access to it. Yes, you could put that there if you want. I wouldn't, thought, because there are whackos out there who will use it because it's there and they can. There are also people who have webiste-trawling programs that steal posted email addresses for spam and/or more nefarious uses. Hence, the privacy issues I mentioned in my post. I have had your contact number for Matthew for a long, long time now and, obviously, his for you. I think you're covered. (((Phyliss))))
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Post by Shan on May 3, 2005 17:23:23 GMT -5
Okay, I think I've found it. Patti's first post on the Soulful Spike Society thread at ScoopMe. To be honest I finally started scanning every other page, but once I found this post I went back and checked every page in that part and couldn't find anything earlier. From the ScoopMe Archives, Part 11, page 10, post 146 , posted on March 2, 2003 and the very next post: and the next post after that one: AND the NEXT post: AND: ===================================================== Don't you just love it! Patti-itis in her inaugural appearance! I'd just keep copying----- the next post is by Rob concerning Spike's soul and on the very next page, Patti continues with "interruptions" by Rob, Vlad and ellie welcoming her to the board. Just go to the ScoopMe Archives, part 11, start about midway through page 10. Whew! I wasn't going to rest until I found this. Sue Thank you, Sue, even though you're going to start me up again.
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Post by SpringSummers on May 3, 2005 17:27:12 GMT -5
Okay, I think I've found it. Patti's first post on the Soulful Spike Society thread at ScoopMe. To be honest I finally started scanning every other page, but once I found this post I went back and checked every page in that part and couldn't find anything earlier. From the ScoopMe Archives, Part 11, page 10, post 146 , posted on March 2, 2003 and the very next post: and the next post after that one: AND the NEXT post: AND: ===================================================== Don't you just love it! Patti-itis in her inaugural appearance! I'd just keep copying----- the next post is by Rob concerning Spike's soul and on the very next page, Patti continues with "interruptions" by Rob, Vlad and ellie welcoming her to the board. Just go to the ScoopMe Archives, part 11, start about midway through page 10. Whew! I wasn't going to rest until I found this. Sue Thanks, Sue. Wonderful.
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Post by SpringSummers on May 3, 2005 17:29:37 GMT -5
Yes, you could put that there if you want. I wouldn't, thought, because there are whackos out there who will use it because it's there and they can. There are also people who have webiste-trawling programs that steal posted email addresses for spam and/or more nefarious uses. Hence, the privacy issues I mentioned in my post. I have had your contact number for Matthew for a long, long time now and, obviously, his for you. I think you're covered. (((Phyliss)))) Shan, do the technopagans have the abiity to see our IMs if they need to? If so, we could all IM our info to Anne with the message name "EMERGENCY CONTACT INFO" and then keep it in our "Sent Box" forever and ever, updating as needed. If it was ever needed, a technopagan could get into the IMs, looking for the "EMERGENCY CONTACT INFO" message.
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Post by Shan on May 3, 2005 17:40:27 GMT -5
Shan, do the technopagans have the abiity to see our IMs if they need to? If so, we could all IM our info to Anne with the message name "EMERGENCY CONTACT INFO" and then keep it in our "Sent Box" forever and ever, updating as needed. If it was ever needed, a technopagan could get into the IMs, looking for the "EMERGENCY CONTACT INFO" message. I'm sorry, but I think that's a Vlad question. The only down side I can see to that is that just as the boards sometimes get "eaten" by HWSNBN, sometimes the IMs do as well. I've heard of them just...disappearing. If you're not comfortable with your contact information being given out, you can either tailor the information to what you DO feel comfortable with or specifying which person has it. For instance, you can send it to whomever you wish with instructions that Anne and all the TPs know exactly *who* has it but that nobody else is allowed to know what it is. I'm not sure what else to suggest until I ask Vlad what the situation with the IMs is.
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Post by Cal on May 3, 2005 17:43:34 GMT -5
I'm sorry, but I think that's a Vlad question. The only down side I can see to that is that just as the boards sometimes get "eaten" by HWSNBN, sometimes the IMs do as well. I've heard of them just...disappearing. If you're not comfortable with your contact information being given out, you can either tailor the information to what you DO feel comfortable with or specifying which person has it. For instance, you can send it to whomever you wish with instructions that Anne and all the TPs know exactly *who* has it but that nobody else is allowed to know what it is. I'm not sure what else to suggest until I ask Vlad what the situation with the IMs is. That actually happened to someone today. Every IM disappeared.
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Post by Bluesman on May 3, 2005 17:47:05 GMT -5
I only came to this board a few months ago. But I learned to appreciate Patti's brightness. I was working yesterday and only monitored the situation with Patti sporadically. But I never dreamed we would have lost her. You just have this sense of comfort with a community like ours, the feeling that you can wander away, and come back later as life permits, and this community and its beautiful people will still be here.
Patti's loss drove home again how precious life is and how quickly we can lose it. It's a lesson I learn from time to time and one I occasionally forget. I appeciate her photograph, she had such a pretty smile.
I wish I could say more.
Bluesman
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Post by Wendy on May 3, 2005 17:48:01 GMT -5
I'm sorry, but I think that's a Vlad question. The only down side I can see to that is that just as the boards sometimes get "eaten" by HWSNBN, sometimes the IMs do as well. I've heard of them just...disappearing. If you're not comfortable with your contact information being given out, you can either tailor the information to what you DO feel comfortable with or specifying which person has it. For instance, you can send it to whomever you wish with instructions that Anne and all the TPs know exactly *who* has it but that nobody else is allowed to know what it is. I'm not sure what else to suggest until I ask Vlad what the situation with the IMs is. Just today, I was answering an IM from Monnie, I had 106 IM's in my box that I had saved, a few last week from Patti. When I went back to answer my other IM's, all of them are gone. I wasn't going to mention it because everyone has other things on their mind, I just thought I would confirm what Shan said. By the way, I am just absolutely sick, sick, sick about this. The last IM's from Patti were important to me and now they are gone.
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