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Post by Wendy on May 3, 2005 17:48:37 GMT -5
That actually happened to someone today. Every IM disappeared. Me!
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Post by John G on May 3, 2005 17:49:38 GMT -5
I'm literally struggling after having read all the posts. My heart literally hurts, my breathing labored, my eyes full of tears. I'm so pissed I never got to meet her, or hear her voice. And I've pulled the major disappearing act from all boards, and did not keep in touch with just about everyone. I've been away, going thru my own depression, to come back to work and read my e-mail from Laura letting me know what happened. I'm going thru all the stages at once I think, so this wont be articulate at all.
I just don't understand how good people leave us when so much scum still lives and enjoys life. But I am feeling good to know that she is with God, in heaven and likely watching Buffy and reading the board (I know the no religion rule, but it's what I feel. If someone wants to edit this, then so be it). She really was a sweetie, and I'm sure those who were around early on know that I had a bit of a crush on her (thought she was so damn beautiful). Anyway, I just don't get it. My prayers are with her family. And with all of you as well. I don't know what else to say at all. I'm still kind of absorbing it all.
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Post by Cal on May 3, 2005 17:50:24 GMT -5
Just today, I was answering an IM from Monnie, I had 106 IM's in my box that I had saved, a few last week from Patti. When I went back to answer my other IM's, all of them are gone. I wasn't going to mention it because everyone has other things on their mind, I just thought I would confirm what Shan said. By the way, I am just absolutely sick, sick, sick about this. The last IM's from Patti were important to me and now they are gone. {{Wendy}}
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Post by Dragon on May 3, 2005 17:50:38 GMT -5
Patti, Where do I even start? I can't believe that you are never going to read this. I can't believe that I'm never again going to see your name when I log on to the board. Thank you for all the kind words you ever said to me. Thank you for all the hugs you ever gave. Thank you for being there for me. Thank you for your warmth and generosity that reached across the ocean and touched my soul. Thank you for being the sweetest, kindest person anyone could ever hope to meet. Thank you for being you. You once said that you would be my friend no matter what. And you were. When I almost turned away from S3, you were the one who persuaded me to stay. And I'm so glad you did. I sometimes wonder why we allow ourselves to love people as much as we do, when the pain we go through when we lose them is so hard to bear. But I wouldn't give up one second of the time I spent on this board with you, Patti. You enriched my life more than you will ever know. The pain I'm feeling now is nothing compared to the thought of never having known you at all. It is better to have loved and lost, than to never have loved at all. How very true that is. I've been trying all day to find the right words to express how I'm feeling. How we're all feeling. But how can I ever put an emotion such as that into words? You were a wonderful woman, Patti. Warm, friendly, loving and kind. You were strong, feisty and so much fun. You were our Board Protector and our very special friend. Where do we go from here? It's going to be so very hard without you, Patti. But we will survive. I believe that with all of my heart. And I really do believe that you will be with us every step of the way. I love and miss you so very much. You have said what so many of us feel but cannot write so eloquently. It is beautiful and more than I could write no matter how I tried.
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Post by raenstorm on May 3, 2005 17:51:31 GMT -5
I'm literally struggling after having read all the posts. My heart literally hurts, my breathing labored, my eyes full of tears. I'm so pissed I never got to meet her, or hear her voice. And I've pulled the major disappearing act from all boards, and did not keep in touch with just about everyone. I've been away, going thru my own depression, to come back to work and read my e-mail from Laura letting me know what happened. I'm going thru all the stages at once I think, so this wont be articulate at all. I just don't understand how good people leave us when so much scum still lives and enjoys life. But I am feeling good to know that she is with God, in heaven and likely watching Buffy and reading the board (I know the no religion rule, but it's what I feel. If someone wants to edit this, then so be it). She really was a sweetie, and I'm sure those who were around early on know that I had a bit of a crush on her (thought she was so damn beautiful). Anyway, I just don't get it. My prayers are with her family. And with all of you as well. I don't know what else to say at all. I'm still kind of absorbing it all. *hugs John*
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Post by Queen E on May 3, 2005 17:51:46 GMT -5
I'm literally struggling after having read all the posts. My heart literally hurts, my breathing labored, my eyes full of tears. I'm so pissed I never got to meet her, or hear her voice. And I've pulled the major disappearing act from all boards, and did not keep in touch with just about everyone. I've been away, going thru my own depression, to come back to work and read my e-mail from Laura letting me know what happened. I'm going thru all the stages at once I think, so this wont be articulate at all. I just don't understand how good people leave us when so much scum still lives and enjoys life. But I am feeling good to know that she is with God, in heaven and likely watching Buffy and reading the board (I know the no religion rule, but it's what I feel. If someone wants to edit this, then so be it). She really was a sweetie, and I'm sure those who were around early on know that I had a bit of a crush on her (thought she was so damn beautiful). Anyway, I just don't get it. My prayers are with her family. And with all of you as well. I don't know what else to say at all. I'm still kind of absorbing it all. No worries John. I know I won't edit that, and I'm fairly certain none of the others will either. Please know my thoughts (and everyone's) are with you and Vicki and your whole family as you struggle. And that we are here for you when you need us. None of us should have to grieve alone. {{{JOHN}}}
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Post by Cal on May 3, 2005 17:52:51 GMT -5
I'm literally struggling after having read all the posts. My heart literally hurts, my breathing labored, my eyes full of tears. I'm so pissed I never got to meet her, or hear her voice. And I've pulled the major disappearing act from all boards, and did not keep in touch with just about everyone. I've been away, going thru my own depression, to come back to work and read my e-mail from Laura letting me know what happened. I'm going thru all the stages at once I think, so this wont be articulate at all. I just don't understand how good people leave us when so much scum still lives and enjoys life. But I am feeling good to know that she is with God, in heaven and likely watching Buffy and reading the board (I know the no religion rule, but it's what I feel. If someone wants to edit this, then so be it). She really was a sweetie, and I'm sure those who were around early on know that I had a bit of a crush on her (thought she was so damn beautiful). Anyway, I just don't get it. My prayers are with her family. And with all of you as well. I don't know what else to say at all. I'm still kind of absorbing it all. {{{John}}} I've missed you.
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Post by SpringSummers on May 3, 2005 17:55:01 GMT -5
I'm literally struggling after having read all the posts. My heart literally hurts, my breathing labored, my eyes full of tears. I'm so pissed I never got to meet her, or hear her voice. And I've pulled the major disappearing act from all boards, and did not keep in touch with just about everyone. I've been away, going thru my own depression, to come back to work and read my e-mail from Laura letting me know what happened. I'm going thru all the stages at once I think, so this wont be articulate at all. I just don't understand how good people leave us when so much scum still lives and enjoys life. But I am feeling good to know that she is with God, in heaven and likely watching Buffy and reading the board (I know the no religion rule, but it's what I feel. If someone wants to edit this, then so be it). She really was a sweetie, and I'm sure those who were around early on know that I had a bit of a crush on her (thought she was so damn beautiful). Anyway, I just don't get it. My prayers are with her family. And with all of you as well. I don't know what else to say at all. I'm still kind of absorbing it all. John! Patti would be so glad to see you stopping by. Thanks for your heartfelt words of sympathy. My sympathies back to you; you are plainly feeling Patti's loss as well.
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Post by SpringSummers on May 3, 2005 17:57:22 GMT -5
I'm sorry, but I think that's a Vlad question. The only down side I can see to that is that just as the boards sometimes get "eaten" by HWSNBN, sometimes the IMs do as well. I've heard of them just...disappearing. If you're not comfortable with your contact information being given out, you can either tailor the information to what you DO feel comfortable with or specifying which person has it. For instance, you can send it to whomever you wish with instructions that Anne and all the TPs know exactly *who* has it but that nobody else is allowed to know what it is. I'm not sure what else to suggest until I ask Vlad what the situation with the IMs is. Maybe we could have a password protected thread, moderated by Anne - she would enter and update contact info. She, Vlad, Erin and Shan would have the password.
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Post by Matthew on May 3, 2005 18:00:55 GMT -5
I'm literally struggling after having read all the posts. My heart literally hurts, my breathing labored, my eyes full of tears. I'm so pissed I never got to meet her, or hear her voice. And I've pulled the major disappearing act from all boards, and did not keep in touch with just about everyone. I've been away, going thru my own depression, to come back to work and read my e-mail from Laura letting me know what happened. I'm going thru all the stages at once I think, so this wont be articulate at all. I just don't understand how good people leave us when so much scum still lives and enjoys life. But I am feeling good to know that she is with God, in heaven and likely watching Buffy and reading the board (I know the no religion rule, but it's what I feel. If someone wants to edit this, then so be it). She really was a sweetie, and I'm sure those who were around early on know that I had a bit of a crush on her (thought she was so damn beautiful). Anyway, I just don't get it. My prayers are with her family. And with all of you as well. I don't know what else to say at all. I'm still kind of absorbing it all. Hi, John. No one will edit that, no one is worried about it right now. You've come here to vent your anger and sadness and shock, and express your love, and you've come to the right place. Glad you're here with us.
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Post by Shan on May 3, 2005 18:03:53 GMT -5
I only came to this board a few months ago. But I learned to appreciate Patti's brightness. I was working yesterday and only monitored the situation with Patti sporadically. But I never dreamed we would have lost her. You just have this sense of comfort with a community like ours, the feeling that you can wander away, and come back later as life permits, and this community and its beautiful people will still be here. Patti's loss drove home again how precious life is and how quickly we can lose it. It's a lesson I learn from time to time and one I occasionally forget. I appeciate her photograph, she had such a pretty smile. I wish I could say more. Bluesman Thank you, Bluesman. And thanks, as I've meant to say it to eveyone who has come by to say their bit but I haven't had the chance to respond to individually. Thank you all.
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Post by Shan on May 3, 2005 18:04:56 GMT -5
Just today, I was answering an IM from Monnie, I had 106 IM's in my box that I had saved, a few last week from Patti. When I went back to answer my other IM's, all of them are gone. I wasn't going to mention it because everyone has other things on their mind, I just thought I would confirm what Shan said. By the way, I am just absolutely sick, sick, sick about this. The last IM's from Patti were important to me and now they are gone. (((Wendy))) I'm sorry. I've saved all my YIM messages. I know.
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Post by Rachael on May 3, 2005 18:05:58 GMT -5
I'm literally struggling after having read all the posts. My heart literally hurts, my breathing labored, my eyes full of tears. I'm so pissed I never got to meet her, or hear her voice. And I've pulled the major disappearing act from all boards, and did not keep in touch with just about everyone. I've been away, going thru my own depression, to come back to work and read my e-mail from Laura letting me know what happened. I'm going thru all the stages at once I think, so this wont be articulate at all. I just don't understand how good people leave us when so much scum still lives and enjoys life. But I am feeling good to know that she is with God, in heaven and likely watching Buffy and reading the board (I know the no religion rule, but it's what I feel. If someone wants to edit this, then so be it). She really was a sweetie, and I'm sure those who were around early on know that I had a bit of a crush on her (thought she was so damn beautiful). Anyway, I just don't get it. My prayers are with her family. And with all of you as well. I don't know what else to say at all. I'm still kind of absorbing it all. I think that the rules are kinda off for now...especially that one. Because so many S'cubies deal with death through their relationship with their god. And, hey, John - it's good to see you.
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Post by Sue on May 3, 2005 18:08:35 GMT -5
Thank you, Bluesman. And thanks, as I've meant to say it to eveyone who has come by to say their bit but I haven't had the chance to respond to individually. Thank you all. Un "normal" circumstances I really dislike going to visitations at funeral homes. (I think this is unlike the previous generation.) But this feels a bit like "visitation" and yet much better---because we all get to hear what everyone else is saying; and we all know each other (no having to make conversation with strangers); and we are all here by choice. I don't know---it's just different--in a good way.
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Post by Sue on May 3, 2005 18:15:38 GMT -5
Regarding contact info. I'll send stuff to Anne, but will also ask her how she feels about her email address being given to someone close.
Since I have the surgery coming up I had already done this---with Patti, no less, who specifically commented that she needed to do something similar since she had no one close (off the board) who would know how to contact us!
Anyway, I sent her contact info for my sister-in-law but also send Patti's email address to Barb. My thought there is that if I'm more incapacitated than expected it was just easier for Barb to email Patti than to try to post here.
So---if anyone needs an arrangement like that: IM me and I'll send my email address, which you can then give to your backup person.
Erin---actually I think I also gave Barb your email address (did I forget to ask you first?) since she has actually met you.
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