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Post by Sara on May 21, 2012 9:40:19 GMT -5
I would very much like to spend the day seated with my bad ankle elevated and wrapped, but such is not my lot. We talked about a BtVS rewatch. An I missing that or is it not happening? Julia, needing amusement and wishing I could fix my ankle with Gorilla Glue, drywall screws and fender washers. Hope the ankle is feeling better today.
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Post by Anne, Old S'cubie Cat on May 21, 2012 12:46:18 GMT -5
Congrats to you and the Elder Daughter on the honors graduation! Thank you, all of you, for the moral support and the congrats. The more I think about it, the more I think that the whole mess was my uncle's idea, not the granddaughter's. Also, she's a bit younger than Kitty and has more in common with her than with Emily, so things were even more awkward. I also suspect very strongly that my mother lied to both me and my uncle about the whole meeting up thing and who wanted to do it. I don't know if she was consciously lying or just believing what she wanted (I deny this reality), but I swear, if I wasn't such a sap sucker Good Daughter guilt-tripped idiot pushover, I'd just cut Aged Mum off and not speak to her at all for a while. Maybe if I can get up my nerve, I'll ask her casually whatever happened to the idea that changing caregivers was supposed to "take some of the burden off of Anne", because said "burden" seems to be getting heavier and heavier.
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Post by Julia, wrought iron-y on May 21, 2012 15:51:09 GMT -5
I would very much like to spend the day seated with my bad ankle elevated and wrapped, but such is not my lot. We talked about a BtVS rewatch. An I missing that or is it not happening? Julia, needing amusement and wishing I could fix my ankle with Gorilla Glue, drywall screws and fender washers. Hope the ankle is feeling better today. It's a bit better; I had it pressure wrapped all day yesterday, and it's less wobbly. I'm grumpy, though, because I have tons of work to do outside and in, and it's raining and I'm beat down to a fine pink paste after a rough, rough weekend on the emotional end of things. Julia, why yes, when I'm not fucking up myself I'm catching the blowback from other people's fuck-ups
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Post by Spaced Out Looney on May 21, 2012 16:41:19 GMT -5
I've got a cold and I feel like crap.
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Post by Anne, Old S'cubie Cat on May 21, 2012 16:59:00 GMT -5
Oh, , I got a jury duty summons in the mail. I've never been able to serve on a jury; the first time I ever got one was right after I quit my paying job to stay home with the baby. No child care, still breastfeeding. The last few years, it's been minor child/ren plus needing to be there for Aged Mum on a minute's notice, but the children aren't children anymore, so I don't think I can use that as an excuse. I wouldn't so much mind giving it a try, but it's not even to the local court in Fullerton, it's to the one way the hell down in Santa Ana. Also, I have no idea what to wear, and probably don't own proper clothes anyway, and can't afford a new wardrobe. And to the first person who says "oh, just wear the nice long dark skirt you wear to church on Sunday" (Younger Daughter got that from an idiot teacher once), , and by the way, I'm an Atheist. We don't do church. So I'll have to fill out the questionnaire and send it back, and then wait until mid-July and call and find out if they actually want me. One more worry I didn't need. Gah.
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Post by S'ewing S'cubie on May 21, 2012 18:28:56 GMT -5
Thank you, all of you, for the moral support and the congrats. The more I think about it, the more I think that the whole mess was my uncle's idea, not the granddaughter's. Also, she's a bit younger than Kitty and has more in common with her than with Emily, so things were even more awkward. I also suspect very strongly that my mother lied to both me and my uncle about the whole meeting up thing and who wanted to do it. I don't know if she was consciously lying or just believing what she wanted (I deny this reality), but I swear, if I wasn't such a sap sucker Good Daughter guilt-tripped idiot pushover, I'd just cut Aged Mum off and not speak to her at all for a while. Maybe if I can get up my nerve, I'll ask her casually whatever happened to the idea that changing caregivers was supposed to "take some of the burden off of Anne", because said "burden" seems to be getting heavier and heavier. Judging by what you've said, she seems more intent on taking the burden off the caregivers. Just sayin'. Bobman and I went to see Battleship today. which we both enjoyed very much. I heard from the Office of Personnel Management today also. My pension is supposed to start on the first of June. I hope so because my checking account is getting woefully low. I shouldn't like to tap my savings, but I don't want to start my Social Security until I turn 66. The difference is about $300 a month between starting it now and waiting. Wish I could wait until 70--it would be about $800. Assuming I hadn't starved to death first. Still I'll be doing better than my friend Deb, hers is only about $875 in its entirety. How is one expected to survive on this, I ask. Getting old means to be very poor unless you were rich to begin with.
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Post by S'ewing S'cubie on May 21, 2012 18:36:51 GMT -5
Oh, , I got a jury duty summons in the mail. I've never been able to serve on a jury; the first time I ever got one was right after I quit my paying job to stay home with the baby. No child care, still breastfeeding. The last few years, it's been minor child/ren plus needing to be there for Aged Mum on a minute's notice, but the children aren't children anymore, so I don't think I can use that as an excuse. I wouldn't so much mind giving it a try, but it's not even to the local court in Fullerton, it's to the one way the hell down in Santa Ana. Also, I have no idea what to wear, and probably don't own proper clothes anyway, and can't afford a new wardrobe. And to the first person who says "oh, just wear the nice long dark skirt you wear to church on Sunday" (Younger Daughter got that from an idiot teacher once), , and by the way, I'm an Atheist. We don't do church. So I'll have to fill out the questionnaire and send it back, and then wait until mid-July and call and find out if they actually want me. One more worry I didn't need. Gah.Do not worry. Jury duty's usually very easy. At worst it's boring. The worst thing that happened to me once was not being able to find the courthouse. I got there eventually and in plenty of time. Dress any way you want. Jeans are fine. Nobody expects you to get all fancy--you're not the one testifying so image doesn't matter. Just comb your hair and show up. That's all they care about. I have wanted to serve AND been selected. If the case is a good one it can be facinating. Did I mention it's also boring? There's a LOT of waiting. Take a book. Also maybe some crosswords. I don't know about California, but Texas buys you lunch.
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Post by S'ewing S'cubie on May 21, 2012 18:37:48 GMT -5
I've got a cold and I feel like crap.
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Post by Anne, Old S'cubie Cat on May 21, 2012 18:49:14 GMT -5
Oh, , I got a jury duty summons in the mail. I've never been able to serve on a jury; the first time I ever got one was right after I quit my paying job to stay home with the baby. No child care, still breastfeeding. The last few years, it's been minor child/ren plus needing to be there for Aged Mum on a minute's notice, but the children aren't children anymore, so I don't think I can use that as an excuse. I wouldn't so much mind giving it a try, but it's not even to the local court in Fullerton, it's to the one way the hell down in Santa Ana. Also, I have no idea what to wear, and probably don't own proper clothes anyway, and can't afford a new wardrobe. And to the first person who says "oh, just wear the nice long dark skirt you wear to church on Sunday" (Younger Daughter got that from an idiot teacher once), , and by the way, I'm an Atheist. We don't do church. So I'll have to fill out the questionnaire and send it back, and then wait until mid-July and call and find out if they actually want me. One more worry I didn't need. Gah.Do not worry. Jury duty's usually very easy. At worst it's boring. The worst thing that happened to me once was not being able to find the courthouse. I got there eventually and in plenty of time. Dress any way you want. Jeans are fine. Nobody expects you to get all fancy--you're not the one testifying so image doesn't matter. Just comb your hair and show up. That's all they care about. I have wanted to serve AND been selected. If the case is a good one it can be facinating. Did I mention it's also boring? There's a LOT of waiting. Take a book. Also maybe some crosswords. I don't know about California, but Texas buys you lunch. Here you get paid a pittance, which, if you're actually working (I'm considered unemployed ), doesn't make up for much. It's the whole fear of the unknown, plus I suspect that the courthouse is in a not-nice part of SA, plus I'm going to have to get all the possible daughter-appointments to which buses cannot be taken and my appointments out of the way before mid-July, plus there's the whole worry about Aged Mum suddenly deciding she needs me to drive up there Right Now, not to mention the possibility that she might really need me... Too much worry for no reward. I filled out the questionnaire and I'll put it in the mail tomorrow, I stuck the rest of the paperwork to the July page of the calendar, and I'm going to try to put the whole thing out of my mind for now. I'd rather play with 11° seed beads and slightly smelly vintage sequins (they emit formaldehyde when the package is first opened, they're airing out) and my UnFinished Object anyway.
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Post by SpringSummers on May 21, 2012 21:03:15 GMT -5
I caught about the last 20 minutes of the finale of House. The ending was IMO, disappointing. Won't say more for now for fear of screwing up those who plan to watch but haven't seen it yet.
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Post by Sara on May 21, 2012 21:11:42 GMT -5
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Post by Sara on May 21, 2012 21:25:20 GMT -5
Oh, , I got a jury duty summons in the mail. I've never been able to serve on a jury; the first time I ever got one was right after I quit my paying job to stay home with the baby. No child care, still breastfeeding. The last few years, it's been minor child/ren plus needing to be there for Aged Mum on a minute's notice, but the children aren't children anymore, so I don't think I can use that as an excuse. I wouldn't so much mind giving it a try, but it's not even to the local court in Fullerton, it's to the one way the hell down in Santa Ana. Also, I have no idea what to wear, and probably don't own proper clothes anyway, and can't afford a new wardrobe. And to the first person who says "oh, just wear the nice long dark skirt you wear to church on Sunday" (Younger Daughter got that from an idiot teacher once), , and by the way, I'm an Atheist. We don't do church. So I'll have to fill out the questionnaire and send it back, and then wait until mid-July and call and find out if they actually want me. One more worry I didn't need. Gah.Do not worry. Jury duty's usually very easy. At worst it's boring. The worst thing that happened to me once was not being able to find the courthouse. I got there eventually and in plenty of time. Dress any way you want. Jeans are fine. Nobody expects you to get all fancy--you're not the one testifying so image doesn't matter. Just comb your hair and show up. That's all they care about. I have wanted to serve AND been selected. If the case is a good one it can be facinating. Did I mention it's also boring? There's a LOT of waiting. Take a book. Also maybe some crosswords. I don't know about California, but Texas buys you lunch. Well, two years ago I was on the jury for a case involving a man who sexually assaulted two girls before they were ten years old. Not easy, and definitely not boring. Not to put a damper on the whole discussion, but I'm just saying: it's an important duty, and you should go into it keeping in mind you could be selected to be part of any kind of case—some of which might be tough to listen to. Diane is right that you should definitely bring a book and other stuff to do, as there is a lot of downtime. No dress code that I recall. No pay for me, since I wasn't being deprived of a paycheck by being there, and they only bought us food so we could eat while we deliberated on the final afternoon/evening—otherwise, I bought my own lunch each day. And lots of cautions not to discuss any aspect of the case with anyone, or put anything about it online, until it was all over. Anyways, just my $.02 and all that.
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Post by Anne, Old S'cubie Cat on May 21, 2012 22:21:32 GMT -5
Do not worry. Jury duty's usually very easy. At worst it's boring. The worst thing that happened to me once was not being able to find the courthouse. I got there eventually and in plenty of time. Dress any way you want. Jeans are fine. Nobody expects you to get all fancy--you're not the one testifying so image doesn't matter. Just comb your hair and show up. That's all they care about. I have wanted to serve AND been selected. If the case is a good one it can be facinating. Did I mention it's also boring? There's a LOT of waiting. Take a book. Also maybe some crosswords. I don't know about California, but Texas buys you lunch. Well, two years ago I was on the jury for a case involving a man who sexually assaulted two girls before they were ten years old. Not easy, and definitely not boring. Not to put a damper on the whole discussion, but I'm just saying: it's an important duty, and you should go into it keeping in mind you could be selected to be part of any kind of case—some of which might be tough to listen to. Diane is right that you should definitely bring a book and other stuff to do, as there is a lot of downtime. No dress code that I recall. No pay for me, since I wasn't being deprived of a paycheck by being there, and they only bought us food so we could eat while we deliberated on the final afternoon/evening—otherwise, I bought my own lunch each day. And lots of cautions not to discuss any aspect of the case with anyone, or put anything about it online, until it was all over. Anyways, just my $.02 and all that. I know it's my duty and I'll do my duty, but I already have more responsibilities than I can manage, thank you very much Aged Mum. Well, if somebody needs to be driven somewhere, or AM demands my attendance (I still jump every time the phone rings), and I can't go, I guess the Husband will have to take vacation time and fill in for me. Unless he's out of town on business. Gah.Not thinking about it until it's time to call in, not thinking about it, not thinking about it
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Post by S'ewing S'cubie on May 22, 2012 9:31:20 GMT -5
I caught about the last 20 minutes of the finale of House. The ending was IMO, disappointing. Won't say more for now for fear of screwing up those who plan to watch but haven't seen it yet. Really? I thought it was great. It's SO House. In his mind it was the only way out of the situation.
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Post by S'ewing S'cubie on May 22, 2012 9:35:27 GMT -5
Well, two years ago I was on the jury for a case involving a man who sexually assaulted two girls before they were ten years old. Not easy, and definitely not boring. Not to put a damper on the whole discussion, but I'm just saying: it's an important duty, and you should go into it keeping in mind you could be selected to be part of any kind of case—some of which might be tough to listen to. Diane is right that you should definitely bring a book and other stuff to do, as there is a lot of downtime. No dress code that I recall. No pay for me, since I wasn't being deprived of a paycheck by being there, and they only bought us food so we could eat while we deliberated on the final afternoon/evening—otherwise, I bought my own lunch each day. And lots of cautions not to discuss any aspect of the case with anyone, or put anything about it online, until it was all over. Anyways, just my $.02 and all that. I know it's my duty and I'll do my duty, but I already have more responsibilities than I can manage, thank you very much Aged Mum. Well, if somebody needs to be driven somewhere, or AM demands my attendance (I still jump every time the phone rings), and I can't go, I guess the Husband will have to take vacation time and fill in for me. Unless he's out of town on business. Gah.Not thinking about it until it's time to call in, not thinking about it, not thinking about it Jurors here get six dollars a day, working or not. Guess how much parking is? And yes, jury duty IS just that, a duty. I think everyone should serve on a jury at least once. Mine was a murder trial and a most unusual one at that. AM, ED, YD, Spouse and cats will have to muddle through. I think that if you can move past your fears of the unknown that you'll find the inner workings of your court system a very educational experience. You may even enjoy it. I did and do.
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